I totally agree with you, actually. Which is what I've been saying all along. But the dysfunctional part of me reads into things, always always, in any situation. And I was answering divine1966's question. He is far more flirtatious than he has to be, but I believe that is just him; I think he's one of those guys who know's his level of attractiveness and plays it up.

PS Though I've said the same thing, not every guy will just ask you out if they're interested in you, just like not every woman will.

As far as letting romance just happen...it doesn't with me. Maybe that's why I am the way I am, I don't know. But it doesn't. I've come to the conclusion that I'm invisible to men. I don't get hit on (unless you count the incredibly indiscriminate men, which I don't), I have never been asked out (it's always been a guy I was already friends with and we just...decided we were dating). No one has ever even bought me a drink in a bar. If I go out with a group of women, men literally ignore me, will stand in front of me as they talk to my female friends. I'm not ugly, I'm not unfriendly. But it has always been that way. So please don't be like the people who tell me, "It'll come when you least expect it, when you're not looking," because I stopped looking years ago. And it hasn't.

I see people who treat their spouses atrociously. I see relationships which just leave a giant question mark in my head because I think, if they can make it, why am I single? I know I am not perfect, but I have a lot going for me, all told. I'm honestly not as obsessive as I probably sound here online; what people see in my daily life is very different than the thoughts that I let loose here.

I don't get it. And it hurts. A lot. I'm a pretty tough person, but this is the one thing that just stabs me in the heart.