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Old Apr 14, 2015, 10:31 AM
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Originally Posted by IndestructibleGirl View Post
I'm not sure what point you are driving at Hankster but I'm taking offence at you basically calling me resistant. It seems like a passive aggressive dig.

I understand therapy sometimes needs to deconstruct aspects of the self so we can build a new, healthier one. What it does not need to do is bulldoze and retraumatize and add a fresh layer of confusion and chaos...

And I'm starting to take a very dim view of therapists who foist their bullsh#t on people who come to them already in a vulnerable state.
I think resistance is part of probably every patient's "toolkit" - after all, it is our defenses that helped us survive to this point; why would we willingly, smilingly give them up?

We have to be coaxed; hearing "forever" helps convince our inner child that it's safe to let down our guard - it is not necessarily a horrible thing. For a while i told t that the therapy room seemed to have the same rules as Las Vegas - it was a place apart from reality. We return changed to the real world.

This is my view of how t works. I'm not so sure i want regulation in place declaring a t can never say "forever" because some clients cant distinguish between figuratively and literally. I think "forever" is a word that maybe needs to be discussed in t.