I keep in mind that you are only 24, and when I think about how I was at your age, well, there were things about my own dysfunctional marriage that challenged me and standing my ground was often "on deaf ears" because the truth was, my husband was not a grown up. Years later I was told he had the maturity level of a 13 year old and I had to "stop" mothering him and that he would consistently PUSH MY BUTTONS to do just that for him, and he definitely did "push those buttons constantly".

It is not fair or healthy for you to spend the rest of your life on "what is wrong with him". It is not good for your mental or physical health. And if you have a child under this kind of dysfunction that will become that childs "normal" and that child will end up putting up with the same kind of dysfunctional man, believe me, I have lived that.

You "are" being psychologically manipulated, this is not good for your own mental health. That is what all the members posting here are telling you, they all know it first hand.

I think you are a driven young woman, you are thinking "you" can make this marriage work, that is a big mistake and the wrong thing to be driven about. Part of this is nature driven as women are biologically attracted to a male that has genetic markers that will produce an offspring that has more resistence. These are "unseen" forces at work and do not take into account if the psychological state of the male is actually "healthy" for a long term healthy partnership. It is these unseen biological forces that keep you holding on the most, it was just meant for early man when we did not live as long and only meant for procreation as all mammels are driven to, however, these mammels are not "long term" like human beings are.

Many women who get to a point where this drive lessons as they age have a really "rude" awakening. They get to a point where this biological force is weak and they literally wake up with "What the hell was I thinking?". Truth is they were "not" thinking but instead were biologically driven. This is a big part of "your" stubborness. This is also a big part of the "high" divorce rate, even the "high" rate of single mothers too. And to make matters worse, the woman is stuck with the dysfunctional male for life because this male has rights to "his" child. Often the child suffers greatly from this and is used as a pawn by the dysfunctional parent to continue the anger and resentments and I could see your husband doing "just that" too because he really only does "think of his OWN needs and will quickly throw away, toss out anyone who doesn't GIVE IN TO THAT.

How would you like to be nearing nine months pregnant and have to put up with him being out all night, you not knowing where he is and HE BLAMES YOU AND IS DISMISSIVE. That is what I lived through and IT SUCKS.

This husband of yours just takes off, HE LIVES AS "HE" PLEASES and abandon's you until HE wants SEX? And you GIVE INTO THAT?

Wake up, HE IS NOT GOING TO GET ANY BETTER and is showing you WHAT YOUR FUTURE WILL BE LIKE WITH HIM.