I agree with Gavinandnikki. You need a more mature man or he needs to make the choice to grow up and act mature. Sounds like each of you are in a place of anger and hurt. Until you can get yourself and he himself in control, things may continue to spiral.

Have you considered moving out or him moving out for a few weeks. Give yourselves some space to think about things in a more calm atmosphere to allow yourselves to decide where you want this relationship to go.

Is there a place you can go for a few weeks or him?