Honestly, I have watched this thread go on and on and the OP hasn't really done anything to better her situation. She's letting thus pathetic excuse for a man take complete advantage of her and because she says "he wasn't always like this" she seems to think her "husband" will go back to being like that somehow.

This thread has gone on for nearly 30 pages and refuses to follow good advice that has been given. This is her life and her decision ultimately, but this man of hers needs help and she deserves much better.

My advice is to change the locks when he's out "fishing" for the weekend and be done with him.