Thank you all for responding. Some of what has been said is tough to read but necessary I think. You are right we aren't married and we don't have children so there are no other reasons for us to be together other than we want to be.


I guess he is telling me that he doesn't want to be with me because he is unforgiving, volatile, disrespectful and cruel at times. I never thought I would fall in love with someone that had this side and I think that is what makes it so darn hard to believe.


It is like dating two people. One who loves me and would walk on fire and then one who is full of contempt and hatred towards me...right? Isn't that what it takes to say (with a lot of conviction) that you want to destroy someone?


It's enough that he doesn't respect me...I don't need to stay with someone who will make me lose respectful for myself by not getting out. It just hurts so much.


It is hard not to turn this inward and ask what I did to deserve this. I really did put my all into this and I can honestly say I tried. Maybe the take away is that I learned what I don't want in a partner.


The word toxic just keeps coming to mind here as do his words..."I would destroy you..."