I have recently been put into a horrible situation by my boyfriend and family where I am forced to choose between them. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years now and he makes me happier than I have ever been. However, my family believes that he is verbally abusive to me occasionally and that I deserve so much better. They also think that he is irresponsible, but I don’t mind handling things such as bills and car upkeep etc. because I am perfectly capable. My dad and brother specifically have issues with him and feel that he is disrespectful. But my boyfriend has recently been making much more of an effort to do things with them and get to know them better because he knows it makes me happy. Unfortunately, the other night he and I had gotten in a fight and I asked him to come over (I live at home) so we could work it out. He was being somewhat annoying and asking me to do lots of things for him like give him a back massage and get him drinks (but I was not responding to his demands because I knew he wasn’t really serious). My brother had enough of listening to him talk to me like that and told him to leave. My boyfriend then insulted my brother and things became physical to the point where my dad had to get involved. The situation only got worse from there as my boyfriend was ranting about what just happened and how my brother needs to control himself. He then said something inflammatory to my dad and suddenly another fight broke out. Eventually I got him to leave my house, but he came back and the police were called at which point he left for good. My parents have now given me an ultimatum that it is obviously my choice what I want to do, but if I choose to be with him I can move out. I am so torn because I love my boyfriend more than anything and we were planning to get married, but I also love my family. I see no chance of recovering from this to the point where my dad especially will ever be accepting of my boyfriend. Please, any advice is welcome because I honestly don't know what to do or how I can fix this situation. Thank you.