hi lostinnyc
maybe finding a counselor of your own? revealing all this could put the current counselor in an uncomfortable position during marital sessions. as you say the extramarital affairs have been fueled by alcohol, have you considered that alcohol may be a problem for you? could you consider going to a 12 step meeting for a time and listen to other's stories of how alcohol has brought damage to their lives and see how it compares to your own? people drink because of stress, but then it causes all kinds of problems for them in their lives. welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome