Thank you all for your concern and comments. It's amazing what power sharing and accepting responses with strangers can be.

As an update I moved myself into the guest room and have been avoiding my bf. I am trying to get a handle on what the next steps are. I am getting a ton of advice not only here but from friends as well.

Some say it can work out - having known him. But they do say it will require individual therapy on his end and couples counseling together.

I don't know what to think but I am very depressed and have been crying a lot.

The bf has made no effort to talk about what happened or to reply to my email. He just ignored it all and has tried to pretend that nothing is wrong - nothing at all. Perhaps nothing is wrong for him...for me my world is turned upside down.

I am anxious to get in to see my therapist tomorrow after work so that I can see what she has to say.

This is the first time he has done or said something like this and I am so confused as to whether or not it is a true red flag or if he just felt so pushed to his limit that he lashed out. I've been there myself and I know what that feels like but I also felt remorse and was very apologetic when I did do something out of a fit of anger.