From age 19 - 24 I was in a very similar situation, except I ended up moving in with my boyfriend. He was immature, emotionally abusive, alcoholic and really a loser. I felt very grown up being able to try to take care of everything and try to make sure he paid his bills, etc. I am very close to my family and there was a time he was banned from attending family functions. I felt like they didn't know him or understand him and he would mature. After 5 years and he was almost 30 and things didn't change. Thank God I didn't marry him or have kids. Ultimately, my family was right and they could see that he was not treating me how I should be treated and the relationship wasn't healthy.

You need to ask yourself why you love your BF and answer honestly how you would feel if your best friend or daughter was in this type of relationship. I take it you are still very young. You have a long life ahead of you and if this relationship doesn't work out, you will be okay, and can find someone that treats you with respect and gets along with your family.