Almost anything my mother says is a trigger. If she tries to be nice, I don't trust her. If she's encouraging, I see her as controlling. If I try to express my opinion and it differs from hers, she's critical and judgmental in my eyes. I always feel okay when we start talking, but I dread the moment that I know will come - one of us will upset the other and then it'll be hard to talk to each other again.

I never expect to hear "No" - I take it very personal and I turn the negativity of that word on myself.. they said no to me because I'm no good, because I don't deserve that.....because i'm a horrible person...