Why do you let it start, when you know that is where it is going to go? This is you not taking responsibility for putting yourself in a bad situation.

Suppose, I say, "Yes, your boyfriend is guilty of sexual assault." One can make a legal argument that he is. Suppose he could be arrested for that. Would you like him sent to prison for a few years? What is it that you want?

Women have to take some responsibility to not go off with men whose behavior they know is absolutely going to become objectionable. To think that you can allow a man to begin the sex act with you and then you can tell him to stop is just ludicrous. Yes, technically there are laws now that say a man must do just that. But you are repeatedly putting yourself in this situation. I can't imagine any judge having any sympathy for you. I wouldn't.

This boyfriend is not interested in having a chaste relationship with a girl. He's made that more than plain. Are you so afraid of not having a boyfriend that you will keep up this ridiculous tango you do with him, just so you will always have a date for proms, etc?

I don't mean to be unsupportive of you. You have every right in the world to chose for yourself the level of sexual interaction that you want to be engaged in. But, if a boy or a man makes it plain that he does not respect the limits you set . . . and he makes that plain repeatedly, then it is up to you to not be alone with him.

This guy has got some problems. I'll bet that even girls his age who would be interested in sexual interaction on dates would find him a turn-off. That's part of the reason that he is with you. He's not that desirable. So, in a sense, you are using him . . . just to have someone.

As far as you being drunk and taken advantage of. I think, in some jurisdictions (maybe all,) a drunk woman is considered unable to give consent to sex, so that sex with her is considered unlawful contact. So, again, yeah, your boyfriend was guilty of assault when that happened. Now, if he's so "amazing," and you are his friend, then why are you enabling him to keep breaking the law? If you are his real friend, then help him to grow up by not letting yourself be violated by him. He is very immature, but I would say that you are exploiting that by hanging on to him.