It's normal to want to have someone, so when you are not in a relationship, it's normal, IMO, to feel that something is missing. Actually, something was missing when you were with this guy, but you stayed in contact with him because it seemed better than nothing. That's kind of sad, but I've done it too. When you know that someone is not looking for what you are looking for, it's best to break off and move on. But that is hard to do.

I don't think there is much you can do to control your thinking when you feel lonely and have the time to fantasize about how things might improve with someone. The mind can't really think about two things at one time. So your best bet is to be involved with other people in whatever way you can find for that to occur that is safe and healthy. You need to strive to make some friends right where you are . . . girlfriends, as well as potential boyfriends. If you're out having some fun with other people, you won't obsess so much about what is in the past.

In years to come, you will look back and realize that some of what you now think of as "being in love" is really just having someone who fills a void in a way that seems to matter more than it really does. I can remember guys I once thought I loved who I can't even remember the address of where they lived now. I won't say I forgot their names, but I've forgotten their birthdays and lots of stuff I thought was branded on my mind.

The more you are out in circulation and mingling, the more of a chance that you will meet someone who wants what you want.