Just got off the phone with my brother. He said our dad is sick and needs to go to the doctor so I need to call him when I get off work in the morning. If I call he will go. I might have to threaten to drive up there and take him myself but in the end he will go.

This is completely frustrating to me and to my brother and we don't know how to change it. Our dad is great. He is truly the only reason I made it out of my childhood alive. BUT he does this thing(and he's aware it happens) where he WILL NOT listen to my brother. My brother says "Dad go to the doctor." dad says no he's fine. My brother tells him "Dad that's a one way street don't turn." Dad turns anyway. My brother tells our dad "Sign up for online banking so you stop overdrawing your account." Dad doesn't listen.

I say "Jump!" and our dad says "Yes darling how long do you need me to jump?" Ok maybe it's not that bad but almost. I've pointed this out to our dad. My brother has pointed it out to him and he admits he does it but has no idea why. AND it doesn't stop.

It seriously hurts my brother's feelings and makes him feel like our dad loves me more. I do know that my dad lives in fear of setting off my bipolar because of the stuff he put up with from my mom. SO I don't know if it's simply that he's afraid not to listen to me and my brother is so peaceful that he ignores him. Any other ideas why he might do this and how to change the dynamic??? I'm tired of seeing that hurt puppy look on my baby brother's face when our dad does something because I ask once and my brother has asked a hundred times and been ignored.