Hi Rainbow,

I know how disappointing it is when you use up your 1 hour of therapy that feels so important, and then you leave feeling like you didn't accomplish what you wanted to. Uggghhh!!! I'm sorry to hear you had a session like that!

This kind of disconnected session happen more often for me when I've been really involved in other things for awhile and haven't been thinking about therapy. So when I go back, I want to talk about things, but I can't seem to get my thoughts organized, or can't decide which thing I should talk about, etc. Then, before I know it, the hour is over and I feel like I didn't accomplish anything! It's just. . . frustrating!

I think I understand too why it made you feel bad to have your t suggest you hold your h's hand. We both tend to think in black and white, as you say. So when t suggests you hold your h's hand, you probably think she is trying to tell you that she doesn't want you to hold her hand anymore. Is that it? If so, try not to worry! She didn't say that! It's just your fears talking.

I too hate it when I leave the session and something feels unsettled. I agree that it is very hard to "sit with feelings." I think it is a really good thing for both of us to practice, though. Because sometimes in life, things happen that you just can't fix right away. All you can do is wait for the time being. That's hard!!