It didn't seem to me she was yelling but more like emphasizing the importance. I also don't think she meant we figure things out but you don't. I think she meant that we don't have a blueprint either.

You said you think others have it all figured out and you don't because of your family. But she is trying to say that most of us don't have blueprint either. Divorce wouldn't be as high as it is if we all have blueprint. We don't. Even people who appear to have it together often don't.

And many come from abuse and dysfunction. Life is tough for most of us. I thought she was supportive, as she spent over 30 years with far from perfect marriage. Funny how we read same post so differently

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