You say professional racing based out of Charlotte, NC , so i am assuming NASCAR or something similar. Just how dangerous is his job?

Have you ever considered his reluctance to get married may be influenced by his job?

Maybe he doesn't want you to be widow?

Maybe he can't handle the stress of a wedding?

Maybe he thinks marriage is a step towards you wanting children? (have you had that talk ?)

I think you need to focus on your life and not have everything pivot on his decisions (or lack thereof)


just some ideas of mine