growly, I'm sorry you are going through this, and that I am late to the party to say it.

Try not to take it to heart, but I think some therapists, especially pure CBT T's are only good at short term focused interventions with people. I wonder if they have the capacity, or desire, to do the deeper type of work that so many of us truly need.

This is 100% not a reflection on you hun, not at all, but rather could be a reflection of the limit to CBT Ts ability(chosen or otherwise). And maybe it is better...no less hard for you sadly...but better that you find this out now and can help to inform new choices for you?

I am glad that your longterm T has responded and I hope you can discuss this with him and find the support you need right now.