I am rather torn on this one. 8 years IS A LONG TIME! My oldest daughter and her boyfriend waited 7 years to get married and I must admit I never really doubted that it would happen. Their relationship was such, that I knew he loved and cared for her and was in the process of making plans for their future. i.e. buying a house, planning a wedding and honeymoon, everything that a girl could ask for, she got it from him. Had he not be acting like that I would have told her to dump him.

Now your guy doesn't even begin to sound like my now son-in-law. He sounds like he could be leaving his options open. I'm afraid that I have to agree with Rose, your options are narrowing the older you get, while his won't. Fair? NOPE but true, nonetheless.

Please reconsider this relationship and if marriage is what you want, then I would make it very clear that you will not wait forever and that there are plenty of other fish in the sea. I personally don't believe in this soul mate stuff. There will be plenty of other opportunities for you, but you have to get moving, so to speak. Time is a ticking. You deserve to be happy too!

Big hug and good luck.