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Originally Posted by Rose76
You keep saying that he "blames" you for "everything." What is the "everything." That is an odd use of language . . . like "things" went wrong and blame has to be apportioned. But I'm not hearing that any real problem occurred, other than he is unhappy.
If he is unhappy that you are not cooking dinner ecvery evening, that's a "complaint," not a case of blaming. He sure does sound like a complainer, and he complains both at work and at home. That tends to be a feature of immaturityor irritability. It's not a mark of stubborness, a term you use a lot without really explaining how he demonstrates that trait. You've sounded to me like a person speaking English as a second language. That's part of why we've wondered about your cultural background.
Unlike others, I'm not saying you should leave him. A lot of people would rather stay in a strained relationship, than be alone. You don't sound like you are deeply distressed.
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I'd say yes to English not being op's first language.
I pointed out earlier her not understanding what's being asked. She sometimes answers questions as she doesn't understand meaning of words. Certainly words stubborn and blame are totally misused.
That's why I still think her submissiveness is cultural ( not to say all non native speakers are submissive, English isn't my first language either but am not submissive). But I typically recognize non native speakers. I even wonder if she lives in a non western country. When asked if she is in U.S. She never answered
Sometimes men change when they don't want to be in a relationship or marriage, they want out but have no guts to do that so they become jerks. Usually women leave then. This one doesn't leave so he will probably get worse. More mean etc
He isn't stubborn at all and the only issue I see is him not happy in this marriage, so that's why he is never home and he made some steps in preparation to get out as he bought a house for himself. He isn't blaming anyone . I actually think op is being stubborn in a wAy by sticking around no matter what he does
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