I agree. Attachment sucks. I joined this place before I started with my T, and I remember asking what I could do to NOT get attached, because I know how I am. I don't let a lot of people in my personal life, but the ones I do, I tend to get fiercely attached to. How on earth can one fix this...when you just turn around and get attached to the person who's trying to help you? I had a session with my T yesterday, and I flat out told her that I care about her, and I hate that I do. She asked why. I said cuz it's not right. She said that therapy can't work well unless client and therapist care about each other. She told me she cares about me very much. I know she does. Even though she hurt me a great deal a month or so ago, I still care for her, I can be hurt, angry and lost, but the care doesn't go away. If I could have anything....I'd be like our beloved Stopdog. She has, what I think, is a healthy view on therapy. And I wish I could be more like her. (Stopdog, you intrigue me, you know that??LOL) I wish I could go into therapy, say what I need to say, stick up for myself, and not care what T thinks. And not think about T when I'm not there. But, T and I tend to keep in touch between sessions too...which I like, but also feel guilty and don't find it helpful in dealing with my attachment. There are times I've wanted to just text her to see if she's there. Well, I did do that once. Just sent her a hi, how are you text, and when she wrote me back, I responded with "just checking to see if you're still here." Her reply, "I'm here." you know how many people have said that in my lifetime? Very few. So it means a lot. I don't see how attachment can help with therapy at all. It just makes me feel pathetic. And now, more alone than ever. I have the folks here at PC, and I have a couple of Email friends I met through here. But talking about people in my life, in my area, I feel so alone. Attachment makes it worse.....