Sometimes we get along with people because they are drinking and pretending to be sociable and we are too. Family often can be the least empathetic. It is really a shame.

Starting your day off with a couple shots sounds like a sign of a possible addiction. Self medicating is not as precise or predictable as meds can be. Have you thought of talking about the pain or anxiety you feel to a psychiatrist. Perhaps they could help with meds.

If not a 12 step program has helped many people find camaraderie and break the cycle of pain.