(Sorry for the long post. I emailed this to CurrentT)

Dear T,

Just some questions/explorations:

*Did you mean to encourage my attachment from the beginning? Is that a goal for the therapist?

*Is attachment necessary for successful therapy?

*Are attachments in therapy normal?

*Is it usual for patients to form attachment to their therapists?

*How does attachment help in therapy?

*In your practice, do most of your patients have positive bonds/attachments with you....or not?
(I mean is it more common than not?)

*Are you comfortable with a patient's attachment/bond feelings in therapy?

*Is attachment the same as transference? If not, how are they different?


*Do you feel attachments are bad?

*Am I bad for feeling attached to you or PrevT?

*Would you rather I try to reel in some of my attachment feelings?

*Why might a therapist terminate a patient with an attachment?


*Why do I tend to develop attachment/bonds in therapy? (It hasn't occurred in some of my therapies.)

I didn't start therapy intending to feel attached. It just happened.

I fear attachment because it has hurt me horribly in the past- (PerpT, etc.)
I fear attachment because it has hurt me terribly when I had to leave PrevT.
I fear your rejection.
I fear doing therapy wrong.
I fear losing another "mother."
I fear feeling humiliated.
I fear bothering you.

I feel afraid.
I feel afraid of giving you/trusting you with so much of myself.
I feel embarrassed.
I feel vulnerable.
I feel too needy.
I feel ashamed.
I feel confused.

But attachment also feels comforting.