My dad's gf is very opinionated herself. Not exactly the same but I know what that's like getting criticized by family you should be able to trust. Imo you don't have to like her just remember you're awesome and try to be decent (which it sounds like you are ) I am curious though does your husband make you feel bad? Couldn't quite tell there and being in a relationship myself with the mom and gf judging hurt more than I thought it would. Don't mean to pry just wanted to help if possible