I think my attachment to my t is healthy. It took a long time for me to allow myself become attached and admit I cared about him because I was so afraid of being attached to anyone, but for me attachment doesn't mean that I can't live without t. It just means that I feel secure with him--I trust him to be a consistent, accepting influence in my life who I can talk to about my feelings. I also care about him, but not in a transference kind of way. I respect him a person and appreciate the help he's offered me.