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Originally Posted by puzzle_bug1987
I know what you mean. I didn't even get any referrals. And then you have people tell you to just go find another therapist to deal with the bad therapy/therapist. Really? I was terrified it would happen again. I am terrified of therapy in general even though I still see someone. I will NEVER disclose or trust again like I did with the horrible therapist.
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Same here. I can't see disclosing or being vulnerable like before. I guess one good aspect is that I have since done a lot reading and networking, and I am now informed and can protect myself should I do therapy again.
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Originally Posted by puzzle_bug1987
People tell you you're "wallowing" in what happened and to just move on and whatever, but it's NOT THAT SIMPLE. Is it that simple to get over child abuse or rape or domestic violence? If we struggle getting over those things are we "wallowing?" I know I have to move on with my life and I have, but it still FREAKING hurts and it has damaged me in ways that no one else could damage me. Ideally, yes, it would be great to just move on and not think about it, but there are reasons why I went to therapy in the first place. Mostly it's because I don't figure these things out and I don't cope very well with emotional pain and life in general. If I could just get over things I wouldn't have needed therapy in the first place. UGH. So frustrating.
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Yes it is very alienating and distressing to be told to get over it. There is a saying “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.” Applies here. I would have told people to get over it, until I went thru it. Therapy is unique I think in its capacity to cause pain, though I know it can help too.