I think there are only so many ways to terminate someone ethically. It's been said before and I believe it to be true, that ending therapy is kind of like breaking up with a partner. In the end it is in both parties best interest because if both people don't believe it will work, it won't.

I agree it needs to be done as humanely as possible. To me this means in person, with enough notice to find a new T. I've read a lot of posts here that describe some pretty awful terminations, but unfortunately unless it amounts to abandonment, there isn't much you can do about since the definition of abandonment is pretty weak. Like Petra said, if a T doesn't think their service is helping you then they most likely aren't the right T. Unless there is a concrete issue that a t can point to as the reason they aren't the right person for the job, then I agree they tend to blame the client. It's unfortunate, but just like a breakup, both parties usually think the other is at fault when the truth is really somewhere in the middle.