I'm not blaming my T. I think she is a victim or casualty of the process too in a way, though to much lesser degree than I was. I see this as much about inherent flaws in therapy as about her failure.

I have seen this from her perspective. Took a while, but I think I see it quite clearly now. Did this help me process this better and feel less pain -- yes by about 10%. I do think she cared about me, probably a lot. I think she is a good person, but probably insecure and a bit narcissistic and she couldn't handle the failure. She wanted to be away from it as much as she wanted to help me.

But this is more about the decision to terminate, whether that really IS the best option, and then just as importantly how is it carried out. In my case the devil in the details. Many many things were said that subtly deflected responsibility onto my shoulders and turned my reactions and perceptions inside out. And there was no plan for transition. Just some referrals and good luck. And when I contacted her, which was me enacting a transition because she failed to, she began scolding and blaming and telling me what was good for me, rather than having dialog. So then I doubted whether her apparent compassion and caring was an act, and now the real T was emerging. It was like a mother telling a child no when the child was desperately seeking attention.

Part of the harm was this harrowing doubt and confusion. This process was infantilizing, pathologizing, disempowering, and more.