Another thing that was so hurtful to me is that I called him about 4 months after the end and told him I WOULD do the thing he wanted me to do and he never called me back. I called and left the message twice. (I posted about it here on a private forum so I have proof that I did it.) So I think it was really about something else. I just don't know what. I guess I'll never know. I have to somehow be okay with that, to get over it, to move on and I am working on that on my own, but that doesn't mean it doesn't still sting when I think about it. It doesn't mean the pain is gone and it doesn't mean there isn't still anger. I'm not wallowing in it like some people suggest. I'm processing it myself and trying to get past it and that takes time, just like getting past child abuse takes time or getting through anything takes time. It would be nice if certain people were more compassionate about it and not so cold, but that is their issue and not mine. It's some problem within them and it's not about me.