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Originally Posted by stopdog
I have not given my power over to the therapist. I don't consider telling them things about my past to be giving them power. If I thought one of them was trying to dominate me - I would leave. I have boundaries and I don't let the therapist cross them. I am not less than a therapist. I have not found one I thought was smarter than I am. They are not better at life than I am. I pay them - they sit there. I can leave at any time. They do not know me better than I know myself. They do not know what is best for me. I don't think they know how to help me without explaining it to me first.I would not allow one to tell me what they thought best and certainly not allow one to try to inflict it upon me.
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Thats how I used to feel too. In the past therapy was not a big deal, I didnt feel particularly disempowered and would just leave if it wasn't helping.
But then I started with a T who was attuned to me like no other. And if you have a history of early childhood emotional stress or neglect, this can maybe pull you into a startling dynamic of dependence and intense feelings. And these deep old wounds and patterns were brought to the surface, I felt decidedly lacking in power or control, even if my rational mind saw it differently.
I think power imbalance is part of it, but it's more of a disclosure or vulnerability imbalance.