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Originally Posted by rainbow8
I think Ts do get attached to us too. I think attachment has a more negative connotation, at least in this forum, than caring, but attachment means that you feel close to a person. It's a good thing unless you get overly attached, which could mean that you're neglecting your real life relationships.
Caring about someone seems to me to be always positive. My T has told me she cares deeply for me but I don't think she would say she feels attached to me. There are attachment styles; you can find information about them online. The goal would be to have a secure attachment to your T rather than an insecure one. In that use of the term, attachment is positive.
I'm sure you'll get more explanations, probably better than mine.
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I think that is a very good explanation Rainbow8.
I think so too that therapists can get attached to their clients. It could be because they treat them for a long time, because there's a click, because they're moved or touched (emotionally, not fysically) by them.
They won't be attached to every one of them, but I think they care for every client. I think a T
has to care to make therapy work. It's in their nature to want to help people, that's why they became therapists. They see our struggle, they hear our shocking and painful stories. I think it's only human to start caring in that kind of situation.
My T gave me a long hug at the end of our final session. It was the one and only time we hugged. He didn't pull back after a while, in fact, it was him who squeezed me tighter and held on for another while. I loved it and I felt loved by him. I don't know if he's attached to me, but based on that hug, I think he at least really appreciates me and maybe it was hard for him as well to say goodbye. I don't think he only did that for me. Long hugs are a two way street.