Until I came on the forum, I had never heard the word "attachment" in the therapy-sense, and it had never come up in any form in any of my therapy. In this forum, people seem to hate it, fear it, love it, avoid it, long for it, etc. It kind of baffles me because for me, attachment it just what a person does when they get to know someone and care about them. Completely natural. Completely harmless. It doesn't scare me.

It's just relationships as far as I'm concerned.

So, yes, relationships come and go. Relationships have their ups and down. Relationships have their good days and bad days. People can get hurt in relationships, can find great joy, can learn about themselves, can grow.

Relationships have specific purposes that vary from type to type. I know if I try to force the wrong kind of relationship role onto a relationship, it's like trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. Good relationships have respectful and have appropriate boundaries tailored to that relationship.

Relationships will end, and endings can be painful, but I've learned that I can survive endings and find new beginnings.

Attachment isn't something I fear or hate or avoid. It is just the relationships I have with people I care about. The alternative to attachment is being alone (perhaps in the figurative sense); I prefer to be with people and experience the relationships I encounter as I accept that this "attachment" thing, while sometimes messy and occasionally painful and always limited in purpose and time, is worth the life experience.