I'm a lesbian, too, and I know that it can make moving through the world a challenge.
I agree with Hooligan....embrace your uniqueness! Find people who value you for who you are. We are all different. Even folks who try to run with the pack have something unique about them.
It is hard enough having a mental illness, without feeling like you are down one because of being different. I think that is what makes people interesting and appealing. Their special blend of character traits and beliefs.
I hope you can find a place where you embrace all that is special and worthwhile in you. And as a side note...thank you for being an lgbt activist!