I still don't understand how attachment can be a choice. I didn't consciously choose to become attached to all of my Ts. It just happened and I have to live with the positives and negatives of the attachment. Thinking back, as a child I didn't attach to a lot of people because I had selective mutism. Again, it wasn't a conscious choice. My T says I have attachment difficulties and that the way I attach to her indicates how it was for me throughout my life.