JJ

I've felt that rejection before, and it's not fun. When my relationship with my ex-husband was falling apart, I felt like my heart had been ripped out and stepped on many times. We wasted many years together, and it turns out he wasn't able to love me the way I needed him to love me - and I wasn't able to love him the way he needed me to love him. I wanted commitment, he wanted freedom. I wanted to be in his heart as he was in mine, but we can't control the emotions and feelings of others. In the end our paths were just different. I'm glad we didn't stay together because I never would have found true love if we had.

Personally, I think you dodged a bullet with this guy. He won't even let you into his home, let alone his heart, so why would you expect him to care about you? Why would you even want a man like that in your life - one who would turn his back when you're in need?

He doesn't sound like he's worth all the energy you're exerting over him. He sounds more like a future funny story to tell when people ask "Who's the biggest loser you've ever dated?"

Take out your anger and get back at him by pampering yourself. Find constructive, positive indulgent, and fun things to do instead of wasting time thinking of him. If you're the physical type, take a kickboxing class and beat all memory of him to a pulp. Give yourself the love you were looking for in him.