Gerber - back to schema now. Well, the therapist usually uses guided imagery to see what kind of schemas you might have. Mine just used a relaxation exercise and I ignored it and of course you are free to do this or not. He eventually figured me out though, it didn't take him too long. Then he educated me about my schemas. The reparenting as they call it, comes along when you are able to trust him (it's a male, right, I can't remember) and build a relationship between the two of you. This means ,the therapist is way more interactive, directive and conversational than probably the norm. He will show he cares by words and actions. Still keeping boundaries of course. But a lot more outward caring than I think the usual type of therapy session. I'm just going on what I've heard about other therapies.

Building a relationship takes time. It doesn't happen usually in one, two or five sessions. It takes time. So give yourself that time. Once you have worked through the issues that you posted about in your original post, you will see how helpful schema is. I think it's for everyone. Not just BPD. It's logical, caring, communicative, and real. The only thing I'm not really into is this inner child stuff. Schema has some of that, some psychodynamic, CBT, gestalt, and inner child work all wrapped up into one package. It's really a great way to learn about yourself and to catch yourself in those all to familiar patterns. I have many patterns and at least now I can see where they are coming from and I can honestly say I've made a lot of positive changes. I hope you can work with him on yours and give it some time.