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Originally Posted by Burned123
So true! I never realized how highly I though of my T until it was over. She told me time and time again that she would always be there. I never gave it another thought. Terminating me and insisting on no further contact really f...ed me up! This was the person that I trusted with my life and my rock. I felt safe and protected and to have that little respect for what I gave her hurts worse than any physical pain I've ever endured in my life!
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Same here. I became dependent on my T. Partly this was a maternal attachment dynamic. But other factors too.
At some point I was like a junkie and she was my fix. And then she took the drug away, cold turkey, insisted on no contact. It was not going so badly that this was necessary. Could have tapered. Could have taken a break. Something.
I'm not one that had a uniformly bad experience. My T and I shared a deep connection, even if it was chaotic and damaging at times. But the way it ended -- abruptly, no transition plan, her subtly blaming "my feelings", failing to take responsibility for outcome, and just stopping in middle rather at a safe and organic stopping point -- it invalidates nearly everything that came before.