i had to give up on using societal norms as a measuring stick for myself to retain what's left of my sanity. as someone said above, when depressed your 'objective' view on yourself cannot be trusted. sure, you're not the CEO of a fortune 500 company. but you're also not sleeping in a dumpster or victimizing/abusing others. i think success can be a lot more broad than you might be imagining it. what's wrong with just surviving? who says you have to be some kind of intellectual and financial juggernaut in order to be a 'man' worthy of living? **** masculinity and beer commercials. don't fall for it. you're an individual. it's cool to cry. it's fine to drive a junker and live day to day/month to month/pay check to pay check.

i'm all alone in this world too but it's almost a badge of honor to me these days rather than a source of shame. there are people in this world who can't be alone for a day without losing their ****. to have a rich enough inner world and the fortitude and independence to survive without looking to others is a kind of strength, i think. try looking at the problems you perceive from different angles to thwart the black & white thinking nature of depression. there's good to be found in almost every single problem you listed.