Thanks growlycat for the explanation. I find it striking that you started the explanation by talking about how disjointed your first post was, because it seems to me that the kind of therapy you're getting has a disjointedness to it. Not much therapy from the psychodynamic T any longer, more reliance on a CBT T who does not seem to have an emotional connection with you nor an interest in all aspects of you and your history (for instance no curiosity towards your past trauma, as you mentioned), and here we have the MD who does not know you and already making assumptions to find out why the CBT T might be frustrated with you. Maybe I'm projecting here but I got this sense of being lost in the middle of all this, not feeling grounded, not feeling safe.

Safety does not come from mere physical safety but being in presence of someone who gets us, who can connect with us. There is a vulnerability in therapy. If your T is unable or unwilling to go the extra step to reassure you, there better be a very good therapeutic reason for letting you suffer like this. Not for lack of care, not for lack of interest, and not for lack of willingness to relate to you as a whole person just to focus on the specifics of problem at hand (the phobia or health issue). It makes me feel this MD is not doing much better either to help you feel safe and cared for. Your distress makes sense to me. Hard to feel cared for.

It would be nice if healthcare providers were better trained in what I consider more basic issues about relating to other people. It's not all about numbers or techniques, sometimes it's about really caring for the well-being of a person, period.

Hang in there and see if you can get better support from more caring Ts in future, at least people who are more understanding and still have passion for their work.