Thanks, AsylumG...
I do realize how harshly I have isolated and punished myself since my last relationship debacle!~
As I think about it...not just now, but for a long time here, it seems that getting to know someone of the opposite sex is a damn lot of work!...all the while being subjugated to scrutiny. In the past three years of recovery from the last one, I've insulated myself from caring, and found other ways to spend my time!
At the same time, I am a caring and compassionate person, extending myself to people in a friendly way (at least THAT hasn't been too tarnished or damaged!)
As I said, these men are probably just being friendly.
Patty