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What is ATTACHMENT?
the tendency of human infants and animals to become emotionally close to certain individuals and to be calm and soothed while in their presence. Human infants develop strong emotional bonds with a caregiver, particularly a parent, and attachment to their caregivers is a step toward establishing a feeling of security in the world. When fearful or anxious the infant is comforted by contact with their object. For humans, attachment also involves and affects the tendency in adulthood to seek emotionally supportive relationships.
ATTACHMENT: "A person who was soothed in the presence of a specific other person and felt calm around them, could be said to feel an attachment."
Psychology Dictionary: What is ATTACHMENT? definition of ATTACHMENT (Psychology Dictionary)
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What is ATTACHMENT? definition of ATTACHMENT (Psychology Dictionary)
While I do form attachments to some other people who are real to me and I am quite attached to my pets, I do not find this definition fits the experience I have with the therapists I hire. I am not soothed or comforted or calmed by the presence of either woman. I do not find either of the two of them supportive or comforting or calming. If one or the other of them goes away, I am not distressed nor do I miss them. It would not be out of the question, due to their age, for one or both to die or retire. The thought of either of those things occurring does not bother me. I do not believe I would be sad (I am not looking for them to die - it just would have nothing to do with me). I do not have an emotional closeness with either of them. And I don't want to have it with either of them. I see no benefit to it with therapists for me. I do have it with people who are real to me and in my life and it is okay.