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Sometimes I think I stay in group just to avoid terminating.

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To avoid terminating group therapy? Or do you mean terminating completely with your therapist for both group and individual? If you were not in your therapist's group, would you still have stuff to work on in your individual therapy?

I think at some point, people become comfortable with who they are, their own degree of shyness, etc. And if they cannot become comfortable with themselves, then maybe that is a reason they seek therapy. It sounds like you feel pressure in group to not be yourself, to not be shy. Is that right? Is your shyness something you are trying to change about yourself and that is why you are in group?

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I hate focusing the attention on me, especially when the only thing I want to say is that I'm out of place and don't have anything to say!

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Well, that makes sense to me. It would almost be rude to try to change the topic to something that is relevant to you and not to the others. Or to state "I'm not interested in this." I completely understand remaining in the background if the conversation is irrelevant to you. Maybe that is just a good social skill you have developed.

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I don't understand people who like to be in group discussions.

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Even it the discussion is on a topic that interests you?

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I just need much longer to think about something than I could get during a conversation.

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But many conversations are about topics you have thought about, so you don't need to think too much on the spot. For example, if you were discussing a movie you recently saw and really liked, you could give your opinion on it because you had already thought about why you liked it. I think many conversations fall into this category. You don't have to dream up a lot of novel thoughts on the spur of the moment.

sidony, I'm sorry your individual session did not go well. Ouch! Maybe next time you can have a mental list of things to talk about with your T (besides group) so there is something for you guys to work on and a way to connect with T. Maybe group needs to stay in group? But since the topic of group seems to be invading your individual sessions, maybe it is indeed very important to you after all. Could that be?

I wish you well with this. (((hugs)))