You are not looking at it the wrong way. Sounds to me like you are seeing clearly what is going on around you. Sorry you have to deal with this sort of thing right now, when it should have been a healing time for you. Please feel free to vent here on PC. If that helps you cope, then don`t hold back Don`t let your husbands words get you down. (However that is not easy, but try). For as much it may be true or not true about the issue of your weight, that you are being labeled as fat, chubby, whatever, it doesn`t give anyone the right to make comments that are hurtful. And if he is concerned about your health, there are nice, supportive ways to express that. Going into some sort of discussion with him over these things might be counterproductive right now. Maybe you should leave the room when he starts with hurtful remarks, or very clearly ignore him, if at all possible. these things are not easy, but I wish you the best of luck in dealing with it