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Originally Posted by Soccer mom
Rainbow, I also wondered what my T's house was like and if it was better than mine, etc. These mirroring feelings really bothered me for awhile since I feel fairly secure outside of therapy - I rarely get jealous of others and feel pretty secure about myself.
I've been trying to have more lasting eye contact with others. And, because I tend to look away when I talk, I didn't realize how many of my friends maintain eye contact with me. I have told my H that I want better eye contact but I don't think either one of us is really trying. And, I'm not positive it would give me the same warm fuzzy feelings.
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Thanks, Soccer mom. Unlike you, I get jealous of other people too, and I often wish I had what they have. It's more extreme with my T, though. When I saw that she had more than 50 likes for her photo on FB, I wanted that for myself! I can only get about 15, even with pictures of my grandkids! I know it's silly, and it's because a lot of my FB friends and relatives are irregular FB users. T says she goes on FB about once a year so maybe everyone was glad to see her photo. It just triggers my not being popular during my childhood. Old stuff, ya know.
It's not the same with my H, either. If oxytocin rises with bonding with a dog......LOL.
Stopdog, what did your T say about oxytocin?
Gavinandnikki, I don't remember bonding with my Mom like that either. I'm sorry you don't feel anything for your Mom. It's commendable that you're taking care of her anyway.