That is great advice from your T, Lemon. It made a lot of sense to me. Sometimes we are the ones who put the most pressure on ourselves.

When I was working with my first therapist at the beginning of this whole thing (journey to divorce), I asked her when I would know when the time was right to get the divorce, because I felt unable to move forward with it. I was totally stuck. She said she didn't know, but that I would know, and would do it when the time was right. That answer seemed vague and frustrating at the time but also gave me permission to quit pressuring myself to do something I was not ready for. Now I see she was right, that eventually I did know when the time was right to start the process, and I did it.