What i did was get some books from Amazon and on-line articles that are fairly technical, not pop psychology. First I found out the different types of therapy used these days, and then decided which seemed to talk about me. Then I asked T what kind of therapy he/she did. BTW I needed to do this before "Transference" set in, where I couldn't leave the T no matter what kind of therapy it was.

I lucked out to get a T who does the modern "psychodynamic relationship therapy", and then got books, or read on-line about that kind of therapy as it pertained to me. Also, the reading was interesting as long as it talked about me and my problems. I didn't keep reading when it got boring, as it wasn't about me then, or at my stage. Michael Balint "Basic Fault" was the best book I read.

Also want to say I appreciate your comments, both of you, Stopdog and Skyscrapermeow...and others on here. You've all helped me so very much, as I'm in deep therapy now where I've never been able to go before to resolve my inner child stuff.