Another thing....it happens that my T is a deadringer for an actress some time back (i'm afraid to say, as she might read this...crikes!) Not one of those sexbomb types but a good dresser and always good to watch. With a lot of guilt lurking, I looked up a movie she (the look-a-like actress) was in on TV, and was totally awed by my little-girl love for her. Anyway, in the movie, she got in a cat fight with another nasty female, and after seeing that I felt like crying for days afterward.I couldn't cope with my mommy figure getting so mean. Really....I don't know if that was a good idea for someone like me in deep therapy. I've never read or heard about patients watching movies where they identify with the T they are in transference with. It doesn't sound like a safe idea, but I'll probably do it again.