When I was in the dating scene, like Stopdog, I was not very forthcoming about details about my family until well on into the relationship. I only discussed my family after knowing the person pretty well and having a good idea who they were as a person and how they would respond. I only discussed the damage my childhood did to me with H when we were quite serious and I felt he had a right to know how damaged I am before making a commitment. He needed to know about the dissociation and other issues so he would have a clear idea what he was getting into. I felt it was unfair to him not to disclose at that point.