I normally don't disclose things early either, but she was so pushy about it that I found it very difficult to get her off the topic. Initially, I just said "oh, I only see my dad my sister. I'm close to my sister. My sister is great." But then she asked: "Why don't you see your mom?" and I said "It's compicated, I'd rather not discuss it." Then she said "Why? Why is it complicated?" She was being very aggressive, and I very pushed into disclosing more than I really wanted to. In all ares, she behaved very much like an interviewer-- just throwing questions at me and showing little respect for my level of comfort with her persistent questions. I was caught off guard, and didn't really have the time to think through how best to react. It was just such an uncomfortable situation. I also dislike spending hours on the phone with someone prior to meeting them but, becasue she was out of state, meeting right away just wasn't an option. And, honestly, I'm glad I found out that we're not compatible before we spent the money and took the time to fly out to meet one another.
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