You know, a few months ago I wouldn't have even been able to read this post because it would have triggered the hell out of me. But I thought there was something wrong with *me* because of my painful attachment to my T of 5+ years. I didn't know why I had so much anxiety and fear around this relationship. But reading here made me realize it's not just me, it's really, really common. Even for the people who claim to have only "positive" attachments, there is serious pain and anxiety under the posts... Yearning. Very few people in this forum really seem happier with therapy.

This is making me think this field is seriously messed up. It seems to so easily cause more problems, even if it doesn't end badly. I technically haven't officially terminated with mine yet but I realized after she hurt me, and I grieved, and woke up, how much anxiety therapy itself was causing me. How can it be good to cause that much of a dependence, especially one that they can just take away (and so many people's stories here have broken my heart because the pain is SO real), and pull the rug out from under someone so vulerable?

I was in so much pain when I first realized my T was hurting me. When she wouldn't answer my phone calls after my surgical complication for a week and a half I literally thought my heart had broken... But now I finally feel better, 3 months later. I thought I was too vulnerable and I could be so easily broken if she abandoned me, but after over 5 yrs in therapy I feel a million times better now that fear of loss is gone and that messed up dependency is gone.

Really makes me wonder... A lot of therapists seem to just make things worse. Immoral ones and just plain BAD ones. It makes me really sad. I also wish I had never gone into therapy with this woman. So much wasted time and money... It's messed up. Because we are desperate for people to care. It seems like we're easily exploited because of that desperate need.